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What is a relationship?

Meaning: [noun] a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection);

Let’s break up the word. We will have relation + ship. In an analogy, a relation is just like getting aboard a ship. You get on board this ship with a desired partner whom you think has the qualities to sail this journey of love with you. Of course, it will not be plain sailing. Along the trip, you will encounter issues like storms, squabbles, fights. It very much depends on how you two handle the issues, on how you ride out the storms.

If you two very much survive the arduous journey and reach the final destination,  my heartiest congratulations. For you have most probably found a partner whom you can depend and count on in your life.

But if things doesn’t work out, most likely, the ship will veer off course and either it will be shipwrecked or sinks. What should you do? Jump ship and swim back to shore (recovering) and look for another ship to board.

Essentially, relationships can be a test to see how good or bad we can be as human beings. And ending a failed relationship is the ultimate test of our character. It is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to either hit a home run or to lose it. But you have to learn a positive lesson from the negative failure to sail home the next time… hopefully.

The deepest relationship that I have ever been involved in has taught me life’s single most important lesson - that we are all capable of being our worst self and behaving in totally shameful and disgusting ways when things does not work out. I have experienced it myself and seen it happening to my friends, on how we showcase our dark side when things doesn’t work out in the relationship. Maybe we each have to experience a certain amount of our own dark shadow and feel the wake of the deadly destruction that we, ourselves create, to be able to decide it is much better to let go and to grow into our best selves.

Some of us waits for the perfect partner with the qualities that we envisioned to arrive before we dares to embark on a relationship. But remember,

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning how to accept an imperfect person perfectly.

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