Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". I say,"Others do unto you as they expect or want you to do unto them."
One of my friends said to me,"Do you notice, people want to see themselves reflected, and therefore validated, in those around them."
I think about it and yeah, it is true. We all want to have a good image of ourselves. As a result, we tend to assign or display the most importance to whatever strengths we have and to devalue/hide our weaknesses. Take for instance,
Highly intelligent people but less attractive people will generally value intelligence over looks.
Artists will value taste.
Those who pride themselves on being prompt will value punctuality in others.
In the workplace, the ones who works the hardest will value effort over results, while those who are able to achieve their goals without much effort will place more importance in the end results than the process.
If your boss is a hard worker, I am sure she/he would like to see that working attitude in you too.
The saying does applies in every aspect of life too. If you know someone who loves to gives little gifts to friends, she/he would also loves to receive gifts too. If you know someone who likes to compliment others, more or less she/he would love to receive compliments. By being aware of this, it’s easier to understand what others want and expect from you.
May 20th, 2007 at 7:49 am
well,not entirely true.. some people give without expecting any in return..they give with their hearts and sincerely want the receiver to be happy…
May 20th, 2007 at 8:14 am
u help me so many time, wat help u need huh? u help me burn so many movies…i help u burn ur hse?
May 20th, 2007 at 8:15 am
u helped me so many times, so wat help u need huh? U helped me burn so many movies, i help u burn ur hse?
May 20th, 2007 at 6:09 pm
Ahahaha! Wendy must be quite excited to help ya since she posted it twice. I’ll bring the match sticks/blowtorch/kerosene
On a more serious note … A nice insightful post.
Going off tangent a bit,
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” … the primary objective is simply to be nice to people … always treat them well.
The “Do Unto You” part is just a concept … it doesn’t mean that you’d to expect anything in return.
Sometimes, it seems complicated/difficult if that someone else doesn’t reciprocate or even comes off as a jerk … but I try to use the guiding principle that ultimately, it is who you are, as a person, that’s important.
Ok, I’ve hijacked this thread enough … anyway, very nice entry DinoGayBot.
May 20th, 2007 at 7:33 pm
True, some ppl do give w.o expecting anything in return. What i am trying to imply here is that we tend to display our strengths to others. This will help us in understanding someone better.
May 20th, 2007 at 7:49 pm
“tend to display our strengths to others”
Nicely put.
May 20th, 2007 at 9:37 pm
“Others do unto you as they expect or want you to do unto them” hmmmm…
So next time i jio “bo da bo lamPxx”, u know wat to do lah…