Razzi News

Men who are accused of never listening by women now have an excuse -
women’s voices are more difficult for men to listen to than other
men’s, a report said.

The Daily Mail, quoting findings published in the specialist magazine.

NeuroImage, said researchers at Sheffield University in northern
England discovered startling differences in the way the brain responds
to male and female sounds.

Men deciphered female voices using the auditory part of the
brain that processes music, while male voices engaged a simpler
mechanism, it said.

The Mail quoted researcher Michael Hunter as saying, "The
female voice is actually more complex than the male voice, due to
differences in the size and shape of the vocal cords and larynx between
men and women, and also due to women having greater natural ‘melody’ in
their voices."

"This causes a more complex range of sound frequencies than in a male voice."

The findings may help explain why people suffering
hallucinations usually hear male voices, the report added, as the brain
may find it much harder to conjure up a false female voice accurately
than a false male voice.

What is a relationship?

Meaning: [noun] a state of connectedness between people (especially an emotional connection);

Let’s break up the word. We will have relation + ship. In an analogy, a relation is just like getting aboard a ship. You get on board this ship with a desired partner whom you think has the qualities to sail this journey of love with you. Of course, it will not be plain sailing. Along the trip, you will encounter issues like storms, squabbles, fights. It very much depends on how you two handle the issues, on how you ride out the storms.

If you two very much survive the arduous journey and reach the final destination,  my heartiest congratulations. For you have most probably found a partner whom you can depend and count on in your life.

But if things doesn’t work out, most likely, the ship will veer off course and either it will be shipwrecked or sinks. What should you do? Jump ship and swim back to shore (recovering) and look for another ship to board.

Essentially, relationships can be a test to see how good or bad we can be as human beings. And ending a failed relationship is the ultimate test of our character. It is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to either hit a home run or to lose it. But you have to learn a positive lesson from the negative failure to sail home the next time… hopefully.

The deepest relationship that I have ever been involved in has taught me life’s single most important lesson - that we are all capable of being our worst self and behaving in totally shameful and disgusting ways when things does not work out. I have experienced it myself and seen it happening to my friends, on how we showcase our dark side when things doesn’t work out in the relationship. Maybe we each have to experience a certain amount of our own dark shadow and feel the wake of the deadly destruction that we, ourselves create, to be able to decide it is much better to let go and to grow into our best selves.

Some of us waits for the perfect partner with the qualities that we envisioned to arrive before we dares to embark on a relationship. But remember,

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning how to accept an imperfect person perfectly.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". I say,"Others do unto you as they expect or want you to do unto them."

One of my friends said to me,"Do you notice, people want to see themselves reflected, and therefore validated, in those around them."

I think about it and yeah, it is true. We all want to have a good image of ourselves. As a result, we tend to assign or display the most importance to whatever strengths we have and to devalue/hide our weaknesses. Take for instance,

Highly intelligent people but less attractive people will generally value intelligence over looks.

Artists will value taste.

Those who pride themselves on being prompt will value punctuality in others.

In the workplace, the ones who works the hardest will value effort over results, while those who are able to achieve their goals without much effort will place more importance in the end results than the process.

If your boss is a hard worker, I am sure she/he would like to see that working attitude in you too.

The saying does applies in every aspect of life too. If you know someone who loves to gives little gifts to friends, she/he would also loves to receive gifts too. If you know someone who likes to compliment others, more or less she/he would love to receive compliments. By being aware of this, it’s easier to understand what others want and expect from you.

Yes, love is blissful and joyful..

But it can be awfully painful too;

Because it forces us to grow

Past our frail human flaws

Trying feverishly to control it,

Wanting desperately to possess it,

And wanting what we want from it.

But in the end all we can really do,

Is to let go and experience love as it is

And accept where it can take us,

Without our private expectations

Or our personal and selfish desires.

Of course doing this is impossible,

Being we are human, weak and all.

There is but one real consolation—

No matter what the pain,

There will always be gain;

And all we can do is learn

What we still need to earn

-Dedicated to you-know-who. We can always be here for you but the decision to move on can only be made by you and no one else.

No, it’s not the question, Dino, are you gay?

And it’s no thanks
to my gay partners, Jeremy Prissybot and Johnny Virginwalker for helping
me to 宣传. Thanks, bralala(s). I promise I will tickle your chin and
pinch your butt more.

Anyway, I have posted a number of articles
that is on the topic of BGR. Firstly, I posted scandals in US but I
realised that has a lifespan-shortening effect and a reverse effect as
my friends whom I parparazzied on are keeping a parparazzi watch on me
instead.

At any one time they see me with a lady, they will whip out their camera phones and proceed to capture the "kodak moment".

This
is a role reversal of the hunter being the hunted… Bad news for me…
Then I decided to change tack to posting BGR articles from finding the
ONE to Why Ladies Likes Bad Guys. That has a more subtle effect. But
another issue inevitably creeps up, people will start asking,"Hey dino, so you have written so much stuff on BGR, I guess you are an old hand at the game of love."

*looking at my hand* hmm doesn’t look so old to me wor…

One friend told me this today,"Dino…. you are being too "auntie" liao!"
Meaning: She is telling me not to write too much stuff on L.O.V.E and in danger of becoming Auntie Agony.

Or some may ask,"Woah, dino, you are writing so much shit on BGR, is that a sign that you are ready for love or that there is THE ONE out there?"

I replied,"huh? write articles on bgr means I am ready for love? No leh, for your information, the articles ain’t about my experiences…"

"Then? Your Grandmother experiences???"

I am a paparazzi. The
articles I posted are drawn from the experiences of my friends around
me. Interestingly enough, there are a lot of "scandals" in US that
keeps me entertained and being intrigued on WHY and on HOW people behave in r/s or when they are chasing a gal.

Dano: Crap lah, that’s excuses! You just want to …. *gags Dano*

Thus
I seek the answers, posting them on my blog when I have them, (although at times, I don’t understand what the hell I am posting) in the
hope my friends around me at least have some ideas on what is going on,
either when they are seeking their mysterious ONES or having some
baffling mind boggling issues about their r/s.

That’s about it… create more scandals!